Awkward and slouched whilst standing in a group, gangly and peculiar – I was the tall kid in school. 5’9” aged fourteen, long before any of my peers had shot up. I hit 5’11”, the height I am now, by the time I was sixteen, so have always been among the tallest of the people I hang out with.
Once upon a time I felt insecure because of my height. Then I started modelling and it was suddenly a desirable attribute. I now love being tall.
A perfect fit?
The only problem is it’s the norm for a girl to be with a taller guy: it’s how those perfect couples are pictured in Jennifer Anniston’s latest not-so-funny rom-com; how you see the ads on wedding photographers’ websites.
It can prove a bit tricky when you’re a female who’s almost six feet tall.
Especially when you’re a woman who’s six feet tall and likes to/has to wear heels to attend a lot of fashion-related and other work events! (Flats and ‘black tie’ just don’t mix…)
It’s absurd – I can only speak for myself, but I only really find members of the opposite sex who are at least my height attractive, and I’m fairly certain there are lots of other women out there who share the same views.
This got me thinking – where did this ‘rule’ even come from?
Well, my readers. It’s a somewhat instinctive thing that goes right back to when we were in our most primitive states. A person who was tall was also seen as strong. Men wanted to fulfil their role as the protectors, and women wanted to feel safe. Women also specifically looked for healthy men to father their children.
You might think, though, that in a modern-day, educated society we’d be able to ignore what the cavewomen wanted and overlook this physical feature. Times may have changed, but instincts are instincts, and along with the media’s portrayal of the tall man with shorter woman, it’s no wonder this ideal is still ingrained in our minds.
But then there’s the confusion that shorter women face – being tall and thin is a fashion industry standard (and therefore represents an image of glamour globally.) But then you can’t fulfil that and necessarily ‘fit in’ with the whole being-shorter-than-your-other-half thing too!
Can’t win, can we?
It does seem a bit ridiculous that how we appear alongside a partner is still of SUCH importance to us all. But until society’s views change as a whole, all I’m asking is…
Where are the 6’3”-ers at?