The scenario: you’ve just been on a date, it’s gone well and you want to see him again.
The problem: how are you supposed to go about doing that?
I’m the kind of girl who’ll send a text as soon as I’m home. (Simple!) Why? Because I simply don’t have the patience to worry about how the timing of an SMS will reflect upon my character. But after witnessing some close friends ponder for more than a little while about when they should say whatever it is they want to say, it’s come to my attention that this might in fact be a little bit of a big deal.
I’m a firm believer that you should choose your words carefully when texting– seeing as you don’t have the advantage of tone of voice, it’s important to say what you really mean! What I’m referring to here is just the when part. Why do some of us think we should wait to reply to texts? Or leave it a day or two to return a call?
The greatest concern I’ve heard is coming across as too eager, needy or attached because, if you communicate remotely with someone, it means you’re thinking about them, which by some twisted logic must mean you’re obsessed with them.
Similarly, if someone takes hours, or maybe even a day to reply or get in contact with you, it means they’re not interested, you’ve done something wrong, or they suddenly possess a burning hatred of you.
Give me a break.
If you ask me, it’s purely destructive to stress out about things like this. Whether you’re male or female, if you’ve enjoyed a date, a simple text saying “Hey … I really enjoyed tonight, thanks for dinner and I hope to see you soon” can do no harm. Seriously – you aren’t asking them to marry you!
I think we’ve all been guilty of being over-analytical at some point. I might even place the blame on those early English literature lessons we all had as kids. We think we’re going to benefit in some way if we say exactly the right thing at the right time, but realistically, you just can’t.
The best thing you can do is be honest with yourself, say what you want to say (within reason) when you feel like saying it, and hope for the very best!